I totally relate — I’m a fat girl too, and a short one, too! Finding clothes that both fit *and* look good on me is next to impossible. I also have the giant calves, so I boil with envy at women who can wear boots… But none of that is important. Regardless about my feelings about how my body *looks,* it is still me. I don’t have a child to care for anymore, but the old patterns of being “too busy” to take care of myself do run deep. I’m glad you’re discovering how important it is, and your article is reminding me I need to do it too!