That’s a great point. In fact there have been studies that show that when a MbP/FDIA mom is married or in a relationship, the spouse/significant other has a very specific type of personality. I don’t remember all the characteristics, but some of them are that they are weirdly passive and let the mom make all the decisions (much like the partners of narcissistic people), and that they are extremely hands-off about parenting — maybe they didn’t even want kids to begin with. Their attitude is, “the kids are *her* problem, not mine.” That’s of course the only way the mom can get away with this kind of crime.