Your story has me fighting back tears. Thank you for writing, and kudos to you for your bravery.

I have similar feelings about anal — I know some women like it, but I’m like some 70% of women who find it painful. And any man who wants to do something painful to me, and gets off on it, isn’t someone I would be in a relationship with.

For the record, I wrote a piece about my own experience with a controlling man — who went to the absolute extreme with it: https://medium.com/@delanirbartlette/why-no-is-the-most-powerful-word-6a5db6027a97

Sending you good energy and healing ~